Sharing the Divorce News

Arriving at the time to share the news with your children can be an overwhelming and scary period. In the first blog post I recap the generals in thinking through elements beforehand. This post deals with the best way to share the actual news. And in the following blog post I share what to expect and how to prepare for the aftermath and moving forward. 

How to Tell your Children You Are Getting A Divorce:

Before anything- be sure you are getting a divorce before you share! Be at least one step ahead in the processing and grieving process, and to consider a plan & logistics moving forward.

*Consider what it is you want to say

  • Tell the news together, if possible
  • Consider child’s age and what they can digest
  • Tell child what is going to happen. DON’T TELL ON YOUR SPOUSE

When to Share The News of the Divorce:

*Consider when and how you are going to go about it

  • Avoid important days, such as holidays. As well as days when anybody is feeling sick
  • Do it when you have plenty of time without limitations
  • Younger children (2-3 weeks before any major structural changes)
  • Older children (1-2 months before any major structural changes)
  • Emote with the children “Everyone gets to grieve together”