October 2008:
The power of Pets
Animals provide an important sense of connection! I have noticed that animal lovers just seem to have a natural sense of connection to their pets. Better yet - the pet does well at reading their needs. Many cats and dogs do an amazing job of sensing when you are sad or requiring a little TLC, and they respond in a non-judgmental and loving way. Animals that are fury and fluffy can feel so good to touch and provide comfort through their presence. Stroking a pet can be soothing, it’s a way to focus on something other than ourselves, and we become grounded in the process. The unconditional love we can receive from pets also boosts our self-esteem and we no longer feel as alone.
Having a pet attracts people. I’ve noticed that pregnancy has a similar way of drawing people to touch my stomach or ask about the baby. Babies stimulate nurturing in others and provide a parent with a focal point of conversation. If you’re a shy person who has difficulty initiating relationships, this may be an area for you to invest in! Now don’t go out and have a baby to improve your social status - in fact that could have the opposite effect. We’ve all also seen the nasty glares that parents are subject too when their infant is fussy. But, getting a pet - that could actually work. Taking your pet out for walks will ensure you of some friendly small talk, as will taking your pet to a park.
We were just not designed to be alone. So if pets do it for you - invest in this area! Any connection, even that with a creature is beneficial.
Kathryn
The ideas above were stimulated from the following article, also for more resources on the therapeutic benefits of pets, read:
“The use of pets in therapy with children”, by Toby Sue Shaw, CAMFT: The Therapist, 2005