We all get into these patterns of disconnection. Underneath our defensive strategies, we are just feeling hurt and afraid as humans. This is universal in all human nature. These softer and deeper feelings can take two forms, either fearing abandonment,…

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Choosing War or Peace: How Your Relationship May Benefit From Couples Counseling We all get stuck in negative communication patterns. If we perceive someone as attacking us, being negative or not being there for us, we get hurt and afraid….

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The Hold Me Tight Program: Conversations for Connection. This ARE Couples Therapy Questionnaire allows you to reflect on where you are in your relationship right now. What are your areas of strength as well as any areas for potential growth. The biggest question…

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MENTORS

I have been so blessed to have amazing mentors in my life. Tonight I got to celebrate with one of them, Dr. Keith Olson, who is retiring from 19 years of service at Bethel Seminary. A night filled with reminiscing…

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TREATMENT PLAN

TREATMENT PLAN OVERALL GOAL: To address attachment concerns, reduce attachment insecurities, and foster the creation of a secure bond (Johnson, Creating Connections, p21) OVERALL TASKS: The creation and maintenance of a consistent positive therapeutic alliance with both partners. The accessing…

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1. Take a breath and know that 16 million Americans struggle with this too- you are not alone! Deep breathing is the first step to stopping the hyperventilating. Be sure to practice deep breathing daily. It can be as simple as…

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