EFT 9 steps

STAGE 1: ASSESSMENT AND CYCLE DE-ESCALATION

Step 1: Alliance and Assessment

Step 2: Identifying the negative interactional cycle on all levels

Step 3: Accessing previously unacknowledged attachment related emotions that support the behavioral reactive stance in the cycle

Step 4: Reframe the problem in terms of the negative cycle, underlying feelings and attachment needs

STAGE 2: CHANGING INTERACTIONAL POSITIONS AND CREATING NEW BONDING EVENTS

Step 5: Promoting identification with disowned needs and aspects of self and integrating these into relationship interactions

Step 6: Promoting acceptance of the partner's experience and being responsive to the partner's new behavior in the interaction

Step 7: Facilitating the deeper expression of attachment emotions and needs creating new interactional patterns as a result of this sharing

STAGE 3: CONSOLIDATION/ INTEGRATION

Step 8: Facilitating the emergence of new solutions to old relationship patterns of disconnection

Step 9: Consolidating new positions and new cycles of closeness and safe attachment